By the time I moved to New York City at 18, I was well versed in the art of self-soothing through masturbation, pornography and casual sexual relationships, cyber and otherwise.
But it wasn’t until I discovered Craigslist, the community message board, and its well-populated sections for dating, sex work and casual sexual encounters, that flame truly met gasoline.
Men seeking anonymous casual sex more often have to pay for it, or at least put in a significant amount of effort.
If straight men could use these sites like women do, I believe they would, as evidenced by the fact that gay men do, on sites like Grindr and Manhunt.
While my own first interactions were limited to the virtual world, 22-year-old Carly started using the Internet to meet men in person at age 15.
“I was always a chubby kid and it was a place where I went to find men who were attracted to me," she says.
Sarah met partners in Craigslist’s dating section while simultaneously selling sex through the site's Erotic Services. The Internet just made it easier and I could do it more.
It’s like the difference between an open bar and having to buy.