In my book, Done With The Crying, tools, the latest research, and insight from more than 9,000 parents of estranged adults can help you move forward and heal. When you are betrayed by someone you love, perhaps particularly an estranged adult child who you nurtured and helped to shape, it’s as if the bottom falls out.
Reconciliation may eventually take place, but in the present, accepting what’s happened allows you to make the most of your life now.
Most of us have had to accept other disappointing realities during our lives: a loved one’s death, the inability to finish college due to other responsibilities, or an unrealized professional goal.
Be sure to experience your surroundings to the fullest, by taking notice. Perhaps recall moments from your morning that went well.
I’m glad I was able to make that telephone connection and cross the task off my list. Parents have known and loved their children for so long that forgiveness may be second nature – – or not. Because of the personal benefits, forgiveness is a gift you can give yourself. In a study published by National Institute of Health in 2011, researchers found that older adults (median age 66) who forgive others report higher levels of life satisfaction.