Dating as a single person is one thing; dating as a divorced person with kids is quite another thing.
True, Kate has eight kids, and to steal a title from an Allison Pearson novel, I don't know how she does it.
Single mom Kate Gosselin is, evidently, ready to date again. The reality TV star's divorce from her former hubby, Jon, was finalized last year, and after about a year of trying to sort things out and come to some sense of normalcy post-divorce, most of us are ready to get back into the mating game.
By the time we hit age 36, as Kate did late last month, we're pretty hip to what dating's about -- unless somewhere along the line we procreated.
"I mean, look-" she held up her left hand, her beautiful wedding band shining brightly on her ring finger. I had been lifting weights and it was bothering me," she continued. Love is something we both want, both look forward to..front and center in our lives are: our lives. I haven't sworn off men and dating and sex and all of that good stuff...
"And right away, I noticed raised eyebrows and the 'you go, girl' comments started." My friend motioned towards the kitchen, where her kids were laughing and messing around with their friends. Being moms, taking care of households, nurturing friendships. Finding our sea legs in order to ride out the rest of this crazy voyage. I've heard that love will find you whether or not you're looking. I've just decided that right here and right now, it's not my number one priority.
They've introduced their kids to some of them, brought them to parties and gatherings and then one day, they show up alone. I've comforted them when things go bad, when they realize that this wasn't Mr. I have to wonder, though, is that the best way to find your happily ever after, or is it simply a way to keep your dating muscles toned and in shape, to avoid atrophy?
All they've experienced is the trauma of the breakup.
Most of the children Ahrons spoke to considered their divorced parents' dating lives pretty darn weird.
And, since most men my age are divorced, too, he'd most likely need me to do the same.
And that's the big post-divorce dating shocker: Looking for love when you have kids is a package deal, and it's often as tough as trying to open the PVC clamshell packaging just about everything comes in nowadays.